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Sunday, May 29, 2005
yeahz!!!today i met yongle to go to sis house to c baby wayne and tif...haa...made my sis cook curry...hee yummy yummy!!!ate alot manz...really full...and her husband bought durians for us too!!!yummy yummy!!!hee...so sinfully full siaz...and i guess i'll pay for it...gonna have a real bad sorethroat le...haa...but well..its for the sake of good food!!!yeahz!!! some photos! wayne n her mom,my sis lar..aunti hor!!haha.. blur but nice smile! le le and tif with her cut-eye brow pose learnt frm yours truely!haha...but her's is 3 fingers lehz..hmz..haha... me n tif...ughh ugly pic of me..haha..blackened more due to yesterday's tryouts and pool game tryout...chaodah... the 4 of us!haa...bet le got a really gd kick in having tif call her ah yi!! loud loud...haa... yupz...see ya ard...im still lost...find me if u can...=P steph @ 5/29/2005 07:37:00 PM Friday, May 27, 2005 wEeee...today is eat with family day!!so we gotta go off early!!!at 5!!!haa...basically today was pretty salck..in the mrn all the bosses were out..so we interns and the temp stuff were slacking ard...well..i wasnt lar..haha got work to do..just did at slow speed coz i had flu n sorethroat..damn... anywayz aft lunch awhile later was the fire alarm drill...we went down early to evade the crowd..think everyone did the same..haha all my big bosses all go drink beer at paulners...damn cool..haa..we went to tcc n chill out awhile n then its off work time!!haha..ok..tts my day...sick still...ughh...hate the runny nose and the sore throat...any cures?haa... anywayz wah had a good diner with zhenhong yesterday...at outback! food is really nice..ambiance also very good..waiter also very handsome...compensate for the ugly company ba...hahahaha!!!opps....well if u c this,dui bu qi da ge!haha... yupz have to think about alot of things, alot of issues. and of course, the 3Ms. Mission. Master. Mate. well...well...its time for me to think le..my cousin also has been asking me about my future too...asked me to plan for my future...insurance,savings etc..well..still cant c the whole picture...haiz...troubling...n these things dun come crashing down on me one fine day one..have to explore and find..search for the overall objective in life...haiz... anywayz was saying tt i seldom lose my temper nowadays on small things...well well...yar except with my family...haiz am i taking them for granted??sometimes im really bothered about my irritating brother...really pek chek with him one lor...im also not at home much to guide him..even if im at home i also dun talk to him tt kind. driving me nuts also...ughh...y cant him just use his brains to think!!...ughh... oh well..on a lighter note, tml is a long day for me...got tryouts and also recce at och...yeah! looking forward to it...doesnt seem like a fri to me coz im so tired now..haha...oh yay another gd news..results out le...my lowest is C..social psyc...well..expected a B or c for it coz its kinda tough...but developmental psyc i got B!!so sad..haha coz put in alot of effort..but htink nvm lar..paper was easy mar so everyone would have scored it...got a B for my hr research methods..heng..coz the paper i dun think i did well..haha...and!!!i got my 1st A of the uni life!!!haha pathetic hor..but yeahz!!so happy! hahaha...my accounting which i took away got a B! yay!!shows tt i really understooded the materials well..but too bad it'll be shown as a D in the transcript...gotta buck up to mi bu it...=) nxt sem's timetable is freaking shiong!!!5-day wk...sucks manz...n the lectures end so late!!!6 plus leh!!!dunno how am i able to give tuition on wkdays le lar!!!rush rush...haiz...=P well...im may seem so depressed in my blogs, but in real life, im still as crappy...but...i dun wan to be lame le lar...so childish...haa...well well...we shall c lar hor...=) steph @ 5/27/2005 07:49:00 PM Monday, May 23, 2005 yeahz!!!cant believe its monday today...it sure feels like a sunday to me..coz usually work on mondays one..woooHooo..so happy...hee..=) well well...after work on fri, i rushed back to sch for our programmers GM...was really tired aft a long day of work in office.yeah work was definately not slack on last thurs and fri...GM lasted for quite loong...in fact it lasted til 1am or something..wow..shag siaz!!!!aft tt kind yiwen drove me back home together with cuimei...tks manz...din join others for supper coz was really too tired and somemore the nxt day i have final theory test..haiz..  me and jueli at the GM.  my head ex-subhead and current acp..yiwen! a great guide with lotsa gd advice!!!learnt alot frm her!!tks! dragged myself up early the nxt day (sat) to go to bbdc for the final theory test..din study much..was so tired coz din had much time to sleep the nite before..like 5hrs of slp only..and think i din do well..sigh...might have to retake coz alot i dunno how to do..haiz...did the test in 1 5 min ...was the 2nd to leave..haha..by then my eyes aer already closing le lor!!!damn..haha...so tired...applied for my PDL...hmz..think its a bad move..coz i wun have time to start driving lessons...damn damn...n its 25bucks..haha i din noe needa pay so i go n apply for it..haiz haiz..den went to meet my cousin..who was late..n also asked me to think of my future...haiz...haha...know wat it means?  huiyi and me..at big O..(read below!)  me kerk huiyi  cute yougen, pretty huiyi and slacker me! anywayz i went back home to sleep...concussed man....den later meet huiyi n kerk n the rest in town..went to big O to grab some food before heading to yuehong's chalet...haha...yuehong was really kok when he's drunk hor..haha.. "IM SO PISSED DRUNK!!!" "MY PARENTS ARE GOING TO KILL ME TOMORROW!!!" "WHO IS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF ME??!!" All said with a hong kong accent!!!wahahahah!!! for more of his drunk stupor antics, pls go to his blog n c..hahaha...  bday boy...c how blood shot his eyes were?n its only freaking 8 pm plus only..hahaha  the pj clicque  haha the pj frens of yh..c yh was so gone le!!haha... mik me n huiyi were lying on the bed and taking silly phoots..here's some choice ones..hahha...   no prize for guessing who's legs are those!   spastic me and luffing them!  the seh ones! anyway left pretty soon...at ard 10 like tt...hmz..thinking abt my bday...but dun think i will go n do a chalet or bbq or anything..haha...will be still having attachment...oh well...c if im able to get leave the nxt day for work lor..if can den it'll be a mambo night bday for me manz...haha...c how also ba...drinking is not gd for u when u have troubles..it'll only escalate troubles coz u cant control yourself cant control your feelings and basically u'll lost control and tt is what i dun like, esp when in not a gd mood the last thing i'd do is to lose control..haha..yupz...  the man who share the same big day as me! haha... anywayz...sunday mrn early early we headed for school for war games tryout...our group zaions were there...gd to c my group work together well..yeahz!!hhaa...aft tt we go bath i went to mik's to bath then we all went to jp...took alfie's van to woodlands where we went to JB! by the time we got there it was like ard 4 plus le..sianz...coz there's this heavy human jam at msia customs...almost cant make it man...was feeling giddy n felt a headache coming up..damn damn...shopped abit at citysquare before we head to catch our movie..stars wars!!!wowoo!!!haha..the lights were very glaring...i had a headache by then..popped a penadol extra n enjoyed the show...at some points i even brought my shades out coz its too galring!!!hahaha....i understand the story lehz!!with abit of help frm lixin lar..haha...now i finally understand wats all the hype abt star wars...the 1st star wars i watched..haha..was thinking of catching the 4,5,6 episodes nxt..den lixin told me its all shown liaoz..wah..haha...ok lor..nvm..still got dvds mar...haha..."ar-ni-kin ti-kia" (hokkein) and "PEG-ME"... something yy koped frm somewhere..opps!!!!hahaha...price (tag) attached!hahaha... haha...anywayz aft tt we all 11 of us head to citysquare to shop..i din do much shopping lar..coz they went to the "hereen" section there to shop for board shorts..which i cant find nice roxy short ones lehz....so nvm lor..din get to vinnci to shop for shoes too..damn..i need a pair of heels and some nice flats siaz...to complement my working clothes..haiz...oh well.. den we went to eat seafood..was really late..ard 10 like tt..at the da ma hua yuan...not much seafood left le lehz..haiz...dun have the drunken prawns,herbal chicken, ermz..toufu..erm..yar...well..had a great dinner nevertheless...80% full..and no more headache!haha...n wide awake...we headed back to singapore where we went to alfie's place...for mahjong..n he realised he dun have mj set..so we went to my house to lug my antique hand-made mj table..yeahz..3pc mj table..very heavy..hahah..so played mj til mrn..lousy siaz..i din game truout the 1 whole round lor!!!!freaking unlucky manz...ughh..until the last game i ended it with a 5-tai, and managed to recover some of my losses...but..still lose..haiz..haha so owe adrain and iz a treat liaoz...=P...oh yar..iz brought his light sabre also1!!really cool man!!!!a $200 plus light bulb...haha...its made to the closest similirity to the one in the movie...even got the wern weern sound!!!cool!!! haha... at the makan place! more photos with edmund and yy...hmz i din take alot at jb..those wargames ones i dun wan to publish yet..haha...yeahz... oh well..finally i have time to myself today!!!wEeEee..can stay at home alone...basically slack and to blog n to just do nothing...long time since i've been able to do tt..and long time ahead before i'll get another chance to nua at home le...haiz..oh well...cherish the nua- times! haha...tml work again!!!a battle to fight! hahaha...long blog!!haha... steph @ 5/23/2005 05:06:00 PM Thursday, May 19, 2005 well...read afew friends' blog...realised that yeh its been a long time since i've actually sit down and talk to someone..talk as in really talk, telling about my problems, my thoghts, and share some experiencecs...n also hear someone talk abt one's life...the most recent person whom i "heard" from is also probably mik, during tt breakfast...hey ger glad to c u but too bad time was against us...=) huiyi ar..i miss u alot also lehz...gRRrrrRRr...haiz...but den again, i also dun initiate to meet up...haiz...busy me... up to my neck these few weeks...used to be up to my neck previous wks with tuitions...but now still ok...their exams over le...for now...this wk im super busy with programmers..sports camp preparations... well well...read kerk's blog also...agreed that in life, there are alot of things that i'll never do..also realised that in life, there are many things which i can do, but i chose not to. also, there are many things in life which i shouldn't do, but i did. regrets, remorse, guilt, sadness, hurt, disappointment, hopeless feelings...on the other hand, happiness, kindness, laughter, smiles, hugs,hope keeps us going. setbacks in life are a lesson. to be able to move on, we must understand where is the mistake, what had gone wrong. the promise that such mistakes will not be repeated is made. life goes on.. once a glass breaks, there will always be cracks no matter how good u send it for mending. cracks are a weakness. you are as strong as your weakness. i despise weak ppl. its all a matter of mind. u can keep your promise if your mind is strong enough. promises are all but empty words. you can promise one thing, but forget about it a minute later. so, who is true to his words? what can make you be true to your words? crying is a sign of weakness.it shows that you are hurt. it shows that you are not as strong as you want others to think you r. crying brings back bad memories. only bad memories make u cry. tears are precious..yet they are worthless at times. have u ever felt your heart squeeze with a dull ache, and felt teasrs rolling unceremoniously down your cheeks?have you ever cursed tears as they fall from your eyes?have you ever berated yourself for showing such weakness?have you ever blame the person/thing/event which caused the damned tears to flow? why?why is it that you can cry for someone?you can cry for something that had happened?because you care. if you care enough, you will be able to feel the hurt, the sadness, or sometimes, the happiness which caused you to tear. care.love.feel. people cry when someone is leaving them. people cry when they are touched. people also cry when they feel happy. you dun like to be weak. yet you know that you show signs of weakness.. you dun believe in promises, coz there's simply no strong people around to fulfil the promises made to you. you don't believe in love anymore, yet you still felt the dull ache in your heart. you smile everyday especially so when you are feeling sad. just a cover-up, to conceal your weakness. you ask yourself, when is it going to end. when are you going to stop feeling this down. yet at the same time, small things happening around you makes u feel happy. you start to appreciate those so-called "cheap trills" coz simply, they can brighten your day. *disclaimer: the "I" and "you" and "he" and "we" and "she" mentioned above do not refer to anyone in particular, living or dead. any similiarity to anyone is purely coincidental.* food for thought.think. steph @ 5/19/2005 09:00:00 PM Wednesday, May 18, 2005 another day after work... been a tiring week so far...haiz...eyes giving me trouble...red eyes..due to contacts i htink..haha...oh well...the interns in my department emily n eugin are saying tt i ai swee mai mia...haha...hope my eyes will be ok... met the venus gers today!!yeah!!!!so happy...long time no c them le..haha..glad to c tt most of them are happy in their work and learning things...well...im not directly involved in hr work, but den again im not complaining..coz nothing ican do abt it..so learn watever i can learn frm it lor...even things like the office politics, the way ppl work is en learning experience... well...things at office are not gg well for me..haha...coz of a korean lady...sianz..very difficult to get along with her...have to work with her...technically its work with her..but to her, its work FOR her...damn sianz...help her do things she'll critisize..not tt i acnt take it lar..but den its those mistakes which i pointed out to her initially but she dun wan to change..den i do it her way already nic encie liaoz den when she see she wans to change..to the initial way which i pointed out!!!!wah seh!!!! always alot of things she wanna change one lor...unnecessary work done manz...ughh...but den again..haiz..have to work with her...haiz..WITH...haiz haiz... anywayz...have been htinking alot of things during work..haha..not gd lar..but cant seem to not to htink...sometimes during work i'll stone off..den get moody..den i'lll go n find food to eat..yeahz..fat le lah!!!haiz...been thinking tru wat barnabas said during our talk kok sessions when we all are bored...wat he said always make sense...in a funny (bastard) but true way...n everytime aft we talk kok, i'll feel very sad...hmz..sad may not be the word..just dun feel good..dun feel happy...coz of the things going tru in my mind...well...well... hmz...work again tml..haiz...tired... steph @ 5/18/2005 09:25:00 PM Saturday, May 14, 2005 once again, im amazed by the smallness of singapore...met barnabas, aoz's buddy in ocs in citibank1!!!he's temp staff there...haa..such a coincidence...but den again...my colleauge frm india..yar..project manager..whom is quite nice..haha...he commented tt its nothing much to be amazed, since singapore is really small...=P...but, im easily amazed manz..hee...well..had a pretty slack thurs n fri..thanks to dearest barn who walked into our room and talked cok with us for very long!!!haha...damn kokster siaz!!!but ok lar..at least he got company n not hiding somewhere in a corner..ate alot of chocolates on fri too!!!haha...so felt extremely happy...=) met adrian at cityhall to go meeting in sch. actually i wanted to bring him up to c the view at 31st floor, but...haiz...the src not in..so tt office closed...so wasted trip manz...=(...anywayz..we were late for the meeting...haiz...yupz...meeting was very contributive and effective..n conclusive...previous event: scrape. new event: under construction. hmz..well..at this point idun really feel anything much though...not angry or sad or anything...just got the urge to plan really well for this new event. and i think we really can do it manz! =) hmz...well...had alot of thoughts these few days...now..haha..wats new, you may ask...haha..but i just cant seem to pen down my thoughts, or state down exactly what m i feeling so malanchoy about...hmz..anywyaz...here's a story by barn, he had nothing to do in office(evnyz!!!!) and hence he writes stories in office...haha..i like the other one, story no. 2 but aft he explained to me abt story no 1, i love it...(story no. 2 in nxt blog)...here goes: _______________________________________________________________________________ Story no.1 So here we are again, at the same spot just a few months ago when we had our first stroll down the stone path. Only a different time, a different mind. At the bench we're familiar with, where some romantic graffiti was always between us. We couldn't remember when's the last time we've seen ourselves in our eyes, it was always a translucent shimmer. Diamonds dat fades on our fingertips. I used to believe in sunsets, now im afraid of the dark. There was an unfamiliar shiver. You crossed the boundaries of the names, hearts, and the forever engraved. You sensed it, you paused. We always know we're never alone, we've understood this, though sometimes it means nothing, we're still free. A pair of joggers went past, synchronised and a certain pace ensued, a joint breath, together. I missed your scent when the breeze started to change it's direction. We watched a young boy letting his balloon go when he was taking a lick on his ice-cream cone. He reached his hand out for the thread, his cone fell to the ground. He ran for it, to grab something that always defied gravity, that was close to impossible, that he'll lose forever. It never stopped lifting further away from him, along the the direction of the breeze, while his cone melted on the hot asphalt. Diamonds fell to the ground. ______________________________________________________________________________ steph @ 5/14/2005 12:06:00 AM Tuesday, May 10, 2005 well...unexpectedly today im free!!!well...rather expected lar...tuition kid cancelled tuition again...haiz...ok lor..i got time for me to come back earlier... well well..already in my 2nd wk into work...work's not bad...dun feel like blogging abt work now... also just back frm the wkend programmer retreat...really the treat was kinda of like a relaxation for me...a bonding time...a time for me to think...some time for me to reflect on things...yupz...well...hmz...also not in the mood to blog abt this...feel that i have to talk it out somehow... alot of things bottling up in me...hmz...alot of worries and concerns and thinkings...ughh...oh well... anywayz here's some choice photos taken frm tioman trip!!!yeah manz!!! the 2nd wave ppl fooling ard...with the 12 inch hotlog!hahaha... 4 da mei nu! on the boat! sunday morning..early after it rained... those houses in the forest...alot of stories abt them...hmz...haunted la, built w/o govt's permission la, dangerous la, owner broke la ,etc etc...but still never fails to amaze me coz its so pretty...yupz we went to the same place as last year! did you c 2 crabs?hee valerie and me! in our super programmers t! ilona and me! the gers of rm 31! yay! haha... finally got them to let me n this photo...hahaha... me and jamie..such a sweet guy...tks alot manz...really enjoyed the talk we had during the trip...tks for making a difference! record! 6 in a photo shot taken my yours truely!!!and im in the pic!haha...freshie prog gers! super zai x-terrain(?) programmers! haa only adrina's logo shows..coz he's tall enough...haha lousy skills manz..hahaha me n yanhan! we always wear ard same colour scheme one!hehe... wat it says on the back of my grp's tshirt!! understand?hahaha the zai ones! the oakleys!!!not mine though..haa zhanjing's one..haha...koped for taking photos!hahaha... well..more..look out for the links! its here! click here!!! steph @ 5/10/2005 08:47:00 PM Wednesday, May 04, 2005 wEeEee....2nd day of work over!.... well...1st day, yesterday, did not start off well for me. halfway on my way there while i was on the train i felt really dizzy...those stary stary blacking out sensation..damn...heng i din faint sia...almost...haiz...alighted at orchard coz if not i'd have blacked out. stumbled my way to the toilet in my heels n formal wear...so ugly...ugh...but thank god i din faint or anything. after awhile the stars went away...n i continued my way to the office. cindy, my collegue was there waiting for me at Citibank Millenia tower..hee...she introduced me around the company, gave me a brief outline of the organisation and department. then i reported to my supervisor, Dr soo. hes a nice man...like a father figure..reminds me of those father like lecturers...like mr tay our CT, remember guys?hahahahaha!!!!..but a better one...haha...dr soo like seldom laugh tt kind of person..but he's the best around, or so they say...really lar..he's not bad. guiding me around, teaching me alot of things. he also gave an overview of what im supposed to do. in case you are wondering, im supposed to develop training programme. to develop training materials. alot of technical things, i have to from a set of powerpoint slides, come up with the course outlines, etc etc...wow...reminds me of the job of the trainer in selection class...haha..anywayz..hmz...yar...so basically these few days i've been trying to come up with a training manual. starting on a new program. but due to lack of information, im going to help cindy do the existing work in progress ones...haha... my team only consists of like dr soo n cindy. they still need ppl to form their team, ppl with graphs background!haha...for building the cbt thingy lor...haha...well...i intend to do my best for this internship so tt they'll remember me manz! i had lunch with 3 big shots of the department. fyi, im in IBO, subset of ATO. we're actually not from citibank but more of support for them. we're from citigroup instead. =) anywayz...was jioed for lunch with afew collegues working at the same level (5) aft a breif orientation seminar given by one of the big shots. den by default, i got seated with 3 big shots...not really big shots lar...but those high rank on tt level one lor...same standard as my supervisor dr soo...anywayz the 3 men were talking while i wan trying my best to be inconspicious...haha...haiz...well..i feel tt im too un-intelligent for their conversation...anywayz..one of them told me, citigrp is very performance driven...so meaning, in order to prove myself/themselves, ppl really work hard...= no slacking around...haha...which i've done quite some bit...but then again without no internet access, i cant really slack much. i'd feel sleepy one lehz...haha... oh oh!!haha..i've got an office of my own!!!haha...its the equipment rm lar..which im the only one there so far coz the other interns from ntu are not there yet, they'll be coming nxt wk. but the door's open...so meaning i cant sleep..haha..vending machine is at 10cents per cup!haha...gona need those tml manz... wow...talked alot abt work..haha....nothing personal though..just descriptives. shall reflect on work life more in the near future. stay tuned...sorry if this bore you yar...haha...boring ar?dun read lor...ask me out for a live account manz...haha..hey ppl!!!if around 12 - 2 you are in the vacinity of cityhall. call me out for lunch yar!!!!work life = no life!!!haha...ok lar..im happy...yupz hope u guys are happy too!!!exams shud be over for most..huiyi!!!fri coming soon!!!!jiayou!!!miss ya!!! steph @ 5/04/2005 08:38:00 PM Monday, May 02, 2005 wOo...time pass really very fast lehz..tml i start work liaoz...really very apprehensive now...nervous...dunno wat to wear...din manage to get any tops today..bought 2 pairs of pants only...haiz...shall have to make do with wat i have in my closet..which isnt alot coz i have more tshirts/singlets than decent looking blouse/shirts....haiz.. anywayz...went to check out my work place just now! wow!!!its really nice!!!!millenia tower....really cool lor...got a fountain there too...damn nice...haha...yeah!!!so gd working environment... hope the ppl there are nice though!hee... cool rite!!!!hee... behind the "waterfall" ok..some credits to the one whom took the above pics..haha..n accompanied me to shop...!the mr HIMBO to be aoz! the building and its 2 big pillars!!!the cleaner(in blue) is captured as a contrast as to how big it is!!! yupz!!!wahz...gonna be a shiong wk ahead!!!!fri sat sun going tioman...annual retreat of the programmers!!looking forward to it too!!!im going after work..haa..so think it'll be a tiring wk!yupz!!hee... steph @ 5/02/2005 06:41:00 PM Sunday, May 01, 2005 haha...went to david tao's mini concert...courtesy of auau n shifeng's extra tickets!!tks manz!!!haa..will have to treat them when im abit richer..now getting brokish le..haiz...manz...david tao is really something!!!!haa...nvm tt due to the crowd (i think) which caused me to merlion my BK burger and i had to squeeze tru the crowd to the toilet twice during tt short performance and try to fight my way back to find the rest after visiting the toilet....it was really great manz...pardon for the lack of vocab...but its really talent....he's really talented.... the queue which we are made to queue outside...rather hot but lucking we were beside the doors and we opened them. not alot of people surprisingly...hmz... the 4 of us who went! met jianhui n a lao jiao programmer aftwards though..=) well..my camera wasnt gd enough for night shots...as complained by me many many times..haa..a hint for a new digi camera??hmz..i dun mind a cannon ixus though..the edmund's model...hahaha...oh anywayz..sad!!!david tao's photos look like those ghosts in his GUI mtv.....haha...oh well for those who din c the mtv, here's a preview of the ghosts u'd c... hee...c ghost???nope..its david tao with my digi camers.... but i still love digi camera!!!and of course my jay chou!but i nvr c him in real life b4..so sad...hahaa..talking like a stupid idol crazy teenager...which im neither "stupid" nor "crazy" but still a "teenager" nevertheless... wat the crapz m i talking i also dunno..haa... well..as usual the star is really a star..made us wait for quite a long time...hmz.think he made his appearance at abt 730 plus?when the show's supposed to start at 7. hmz..is this the norm?shud be ba..so shud we conform to the norm because simply it just is this way or shud we say hey hey stars u cant make ur fans wait...but den again for these events, the preparation have to be very steady n gd..so there may be alot of last minute those "due to unforseen circumstances" technical glitches so the stars have no choice but to let us wait...which is well..reasonable... so next time im late meeting people, well...due to unforseen circumstances lar hor..hahaha...coz im a star mar! stephie star...ok...lame again.... __________________________________________________________________________ (*the below is highly subjective and is based on the writer's own thoughts. please read the disclaimer below.*) anywayz..something strucked me again...1st impressions...well...usually 1st impressions last for a long time..even after you know the person already...people tend to say..hey dun judge by 1st impressions, but sub-consciously they'll succumb to judging to their initial impression of the person. or also, maybe not the 1st impression, but the certain characteristics the person tend to protray. hmz...how should i put it...ok..how about say...a person who is wearing singlet n shorts to school almost every day. people will tend to PERCEIVE the person as a slacker, dunno how to be presentable, loud, no-manners, always insensitive to other people, always late etc etc..this is called stereotyping lar...(learnt in my social psyc! =p ). ok..den due to the stereotyping, whatever the actions the person did which corresponded to the traits of the stereotype, people will immediately notice and they'll attribute it to the person's internal deposition, ie, he's always borrowing things from people for example. nevermind that the person really seldom borrow things from others..it was just a once-off thing coz he forgot to bring tt watever thing he borrowed. just becuase he's stereotyped as that, he's judged by that too, even though he wasnt like tt...ermz...clear still?so sometimes, before you judge people, think...of the 3 qns, is that person always doing that action in this particular situation? will the person do that action in other situations? are others doing the same action if put into the same situation? think through before you judge and form your own attitude towards the person and his actions... people judge things/other people based on alot of reasons. a friend once said, " please do not judge something unless you personally been there done that and tasted the gd/bad of the thing/person. do not have a verdict based on what others say, what u heard others say. we tend to take things for granted.no matter with who there's a certain level of taking things for granted-ness in us. but there's a threshold also. usually people tend to take their close friends and family for granted. i admit im one of those. i take my family for granted. my mother, sister and even my brother also. i used to take a close friend of mine for granted.too much i supposed, til things were not the same as they used to be. now, before you judge again, think carefully.. u take ppl for granted, people also take you for granted. where is the fine line between helping and taking people for granted?got any limits?yes. but wat limits?i'd say, its up to individuals. some people might not mind helping you, accompanying you when you are down,leanding you a listening ear. too much of gd things are bad. so too much of these means taking for granted?well...there's another term i'd want to introduce. Reciprocracity . give and take. well..so does it means that if you always take n take n dont give it means that you are taking things or people for granted? maybe so..makes sense...so when you are thinking and judging another person of taking things for granted, please also think about yourself. do you also do the same thing too?maybe not to the same person but to others? it is only though others that you learn more of yourself. means alot. please go think about it. i lazy to go into it...=P self-explainatary rite..??haha... i think i've changed quite alot these few months. i no longer take things for granted. through close contact with friend, friends who are so willing to help so willing to give and not take, that i realised the importance of reciprocracity. you wonder how come some people are just so willing to give so much, without asking for anything in return. altruism? is there really altruism? controversal topic again. dun wish to go into it now. through observations of people, of friends, you can learn alot of things about yourself and others. reflect on your own doings. when you are wrong, admit it and move on. it is only when u know where you go wrong and not worry at what a fool you'd seem to others for making mistakes that you'll be able to realise your mistakes and thus maybe change for the better. "blame it on the ego" , " wow he's got such a big ego"... hold back tt mr Ego and reflect on what went wrong. often its the size of the ego which prevents you from admiting your worngs, be it just a small wrong. so please, again, when people point out your flaws, be it tactlessly or tactfully, do not be angry at the person for pointing out your flaws. instead, think of why did he point out that mistake. is it really a mistake?has to be a mistake mar since he pointed it out...but then, before you brush it off or rebuke the person, please do something abt the mistake you made. or the flaw that you have. afterall its to your best intentions that others point out your mistake. if you don't learn from these, then probably you don't and won't learn anything.. life's a learning process. Im still learning.i won't change myself to suit others. but i will change for the better. how about you? well...disclaimer time! * the above is abit disorganised, from the pent-up thoughts of the writer (yours truely lar!!). Read at your own will. If you don't understand or don't agree with the writer, please ask her out and discuss over tea. (you're paying of course! =P hahahaha).Any discrimination when the writer refers to the gender of the subjects ie, the HEs and SHEs mentioned, is purely NOT based on stereotyping and discrimination. any form of similairty to any person, living or dead, is purely coincidental. ie, NO ONE is being TARGETTED at!!!=) steph @ 5/01/2005 12:43:00 AM
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